Chasing Boys

In response to “Chasing Girls” I would like to offer a woman’s perspective. The concept of letting guys chase us is hard in today’s world.  The world makes us believe that we have to do some of the pursuing, if we don’t, we are weak and not equal to a man.  This couldn’t be farther from the truth. I want to express to you that God’s plan for men and women is amazing, and unfortunately, is something that our culture is trying to throw out the window. Think about the natural God-given instincts He gave to men and women.  Men like adventure, like hunting, and like danger.  Think about how great they feel about themselves when we as women allow them to be that way.  Do you think it’s easy for a guy to ask you out?  Heck no!  You’re amazing.  You could reject him and humiliate him.  That is scary, but a real man has courage and is willing to take that risk.   To the core, every girl wants to be pursued-- to know that she is worth chasing after.  I am telling you ladies:  you are worth it.  God created us to be this way.  If you chase after guys, call them, ask them out, there is no adventure or work involved.  With no excitement that comes from the chase, the guy will get bored very quickly and move on. 

Guys - despite what our culture tells you, women still want to be pursued.  Yes it can be hard, and yes it can be awkward to go after the girl of your dreams.  Some girls don’t respond to this well, but don’t you want a women you can pursue that is receptive to you and your efforts?

And ladies, if a guy is not chasing after you, pursuing you, don’t waste your time.  You’re worth more!  I have seen many friends get hung up on guys that are sending mixed messages.  If they are sending these mixed messages, they probably are not interested.  It’s very freeing to know that.  Move on.  If a man is truly into you he will do what it takes to get you and keep you.   Be patient and know that there is a man out there who will come after you.  Don’t lower you standards, and don’t chase. 

 My roommates and I were talking about how us girls freak out and get so excited when a man is pursuing and romancing us.  Well, do you pay attention to how God pursues you his beautiful daughter?  How God would do anything for you; how He died for you?  What if we went crazy about God like we do about boys?  That would be awesome. It can be very hard to wait, but know that there is an amazing brilliant wonderful God that is always pursuing you.  Allow Him to, and grow in your relationship with Him.

Men – Thank you for being holy men, for being strong courageous and fighting for the dignity of women.  We appreciate it!